Parenting—it’s not static. It’s this fluid, ever-evolving role, constantly asking us to adapt, adjust, and even redefine what it means to “be there.” So, what happens when your kids start asserting their independence, and you’re no longer the center of their universe? When Parenting Changes Shape is a space to dive deep into the shifting dynamics of parenting as our children grow into their own lives. Together, we’ll explore how to release control, set new boundaries, and support our children from a place of respect and connection. It’s about learning to love and lead from a different place, one that respects their autonomy while staying genuinely connected.
Inspired by Jim Burns’ Doing Life with Your Adult Children, we’ll use his practical insights and compassionate guidance to navigate this rewarding but challenging transition.
This group is for parents navigating the pivotal transition of shifting roles—whether you’re parenting teenagers asserting their independence, adult children who have left home, or simply feeling the evolution in your connection with your child. If you’re facing the complexity of letting go while staying present, this space is for you. It’s also for those looking to better understand the balance of setting boundaries and offering support, especially as children step into their own adult lives.
How Long Will We Meet?
We’ll gather weekly for four sessions, each lasting 90 minutes. This format allows us the time to explore the nuances of this transition in a supportive environment, giving you room to process and apply what you learn without feeling rushed or overwhelmed.
What Specific Challenges Will We Tackle Together?
We’ll tackle the emotional complexities of stepping back while staying supportive, navigating boundary-setting, and reimagining what “being there” looks like as your child grows. Guided by Burns’ insights, we’ll explore how to release control gracefully, communicate with respect, and maintain a meaningful relationship without overstepping. We’ll also discuss common challenges such as managing tension when values or lifestyles differ, how to avoid enabling versus helping, and what it looks like to foster mutual respect in this new chapter.
What Will Our Sessions Look Like?
Each session will blend thoughtful reflection, practical exercises, and group conversations. We’ll start with a teaching moment inspired by Doing Life with Your Adult Children to set the tone and provide context. From there, we’ll dive into real-life scenarios, explore personal experiences, and engage in guided discussions. These sessions will allow you to unpack your experiences, share challenges, and gain clarity through the wisdom of the group—because it’s often in these conversations that real insights emerge.
How Much Effort Will I Need to Invest Before and After Each Session?
Before each session, plan to set aside 45-60 minutes for readings or reflection exercises from Doing Life with Your Adult Children. Afterward, give yourself another hour or so to practice the strategies discussed and reflect on your evolving role as a parent. Each week is an opportunity to grow, bringing the concepts we discuss into your daily life and observing how they shift your approach.
We’ll be using Doing Life with Your Adult Children by Jim Burns as our guiding resource. Burns provides practical advice and hopeful encouragement for navigating this season with grace and intention. Through personal and professional insights, he addresses common questions like:
How do I set healthy boundaries with my adult children?
Is it okay to give advice to my grown child?
What do I do when my child’s choices conflict with my values?
How can I support my child’s independence without enabling?
With Burns’ compassionate guidance, this coaching circle will help you find peace and purpose in this new chapter of parenting.
What Will I Walk Away With?
You’ll leave with a deeper understanding of the evolving parent-child relationship and practical strategies for navigating the challenges it brings. You’ll gain tools to communicate with empathy and clarity, fostering connection and mutual respect. Expect to walk away with greater peace in letting go, a sense of purpose in supporting your child’s autonomy, and insights on how to maintain your own identity and well-being in the process.
